Abhi Yerra

Sheepdog: A Framework for Action in Life and Work

Why?
“O my soul, do not aspire to immortal life, but exhaust the limits of the possible.” -Pindar
 
  • Why do you exist?
  • Without knowing your “why” everything will be a struggle because you will be following other people’s why.
  • You may find contentment in other people’s whys and it is important to follow and support others who are moving the world forward.
  • However, this contentment can become resentment over time when you don’t have your own why.
  • If you are a follower the people who are leading can push you around which can make you feel powerless, and aloof.
  • So why do you exist?
  • You should really have a short concise answer to this.
  • This is why you are doing what you are doing.
  • This is what motivates you.
  • This is what drives you forward when things get tough, and you want to quit.
  • But make sure your why can sustain big drastic changes in your life.
  • If you are a scientist and you have made your why around a particular theory and that theory is disproved, well your are screwed.
  • Be careful about making your why other people you take care of, they have the capacity to disappoint you.
  • You why should be ambitious, big, simple and achievable.
  • You should also narrow the domain in which you want to achieve this goal.
  • You cannot tackle too many messages and streams of whys at once.
  • That is you cannot make the goal multifaceted you cannot tackle world hunger and climate change.
  • This makes the goal too muddy and makes it hard for you to focus so you have to have a singular goal that allows you to know if you are moving forward.
  • Don’t make money your why
  • Money is a measure of success not success.
  • After a certain amount of money research shows additional money doesn’t bring greater happiness.
  • The why is the vision by which you can measure your life.
  • It gives you a barometer by which to measure if you are actually progressing towards what you want to do.
  • Are you getting there?
  • Are you taking meaningful steps to get to your why?
  • No why is without obstacles to overcome.
  • This will be the goal of the next chapter.
  • How to overcome the obstacles to get to your why.
  • When you define your “why” you will have to give up something.
  • Not everything is free and you can’t have everything.
  • You can have fame, but you have to give up being anonymous.
  • You can have wealth, but then you have to constantly be badgered about money from people.
  • You can have power, but you give up the type of relationship you have with other people.
  • This is the toll that must be paid for taking the journey that you are taking.
  • You also need to figure out what is holding you back from reaching you why.
  • What is stopping you from getting there?
  • Friends that are no longer conducive to your growth?
  • Habits that prevent you from being fully present?
  • Being in an area that does not give you the growth?
  • Lack of knowledge?
  • If you are with a partner and have you need to figure out how to achieve you why, while also being with them.
  • What are the compromises that you are willing to make?
  • What is good enough for both of you.
  • What are you willing to give up with them to have.
  • Remember nothing comes for free so you have to reorganize your life if you want to achieve your why while also have a strong relationship with your spouse or partner.
  • What are they willing to give up for you?
  • Also, know that at the end of your days, having a good meaningful intimate relationship with your partner is significantly important to your well being.